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mmouthbreather:

girthcrisis:

This is Andrew Joseph Wirth, more commonly known as Andy Wirth, even more commonly known as the singer of Abandon.

Andy is hiding out from an accountability process. The list of people that he has hurt is literally growing by the day.

We will not leave, we will not stop looking, we will not stop calling, we will not stop flooding every social network possible to bring light to this situation.

We. Will. Not. Stop.

Remember, dear Andy, that nowhere is safe forever.

Let’s be fucking real for a second.
Andy is hiding because he fears for his life.
He was 100% willing to go forward with the accountability process until people started making very real threats about ending his life.

You cannot expect someone to go along with an accountability process if they fear for their life, regardless of who they are or what they may have done.
No one will be willing to die or be severely beaten as part of their accountability process.
And starting a witch hunt because someone (who is genuinely remorseful and wants to be accountable) is looking out for their personal safety is despicable.

**I’m not going to comment on the circumstances that led to an accountability process being necessary.
I am not saying that Andy is innocent of wrongdoing, or that an accountability process is not necessary or that it in and of itself is a “witch hunt” and I am not making excuses for anything that Andy has done, except for doing what is necessary to protect his life.

STOP OPENING YOUR FUCKING MOUTHS ABOUT SHIT YOU DON’T KNOW. I am the person that tried to get into contact with Andy. ME. Right here. Andy was evading me and dismissing me before the internet was brought into this. We didn’t have people looking for him. We weren’t on a “hunt”. I texted him two weeks ago telling him I would be in Portland the following Tuesday and thought we should talk. He agreed. I kept the conversation short and did absolutely nothing to lead him to believe he was in any danger. When I texted him the next Tuesday when I got to Portland he started making excuses. This is before he knew I was with anyone else. I told him I was only in town for the day and we needed to talk. I told him I wanted to talk at a friend of mine’s house. A friend of mine that he knew well. A house which he had been to before. He refused and said we should meet in public. I told him I was uncomfortable with talking in public and that it was a triggering situation. I think it’s inappropriate to ask someone to talk about assault, of any nature, in a public space where anyone can hear you and you don’t know who’s there or who could show up. He still refused. Keep in mind that ANDY HAS IN NO WAY BEEN THREATENED. I told him I didn’t understand why he was uncomfortable with it. That I thought he should be open to doing it on my terms. That’s when HE brought up that HE feared for HIS safety. No one threatened him. No one besides me talked to him. We didn’t tell anyone else we were coming to Portland. So, fuck off on that one. He also told me that there was no point in talking to him if I didn’t believe that the things he did were not done consciously. So basically he was telling me that if I didn’t believe him then he wouldn’t talk to me? What kind of closure would we get from that? What the fuck kind of accountability process is that? He refused and refused again. He told me I could call him on the phone. That’s taking responsibility for the things you’ve done? I told him that this was not on his terms, it was on the terms of the women he had violated. He still hasn’t responded. It’s been five days. Let me remind everyone that WE HAVE NOT THREATENED ANDY. WE HAVE NOT GONE TO HIS HOUSE. WE HAVE NOT THREATENED HIS LIFE, OR HIS LOVED ONES. He is not remorseful. He does not want to be held accountable. Or else he would have met with me five days ago and talked to me. So yeah, it has escalated to this. BECAUSE he is not willing to take any responsibility for the things he’s done. He’s in hiding and he changed his phone number, for fuck’s sake. Fuck anyone that has anything but unrelenting support for a survivor. What kind of back-handed bullshit is all of this? Y’all are reblogging kill rapists and bash back pictures to your heart’s content, but when it’s about someone you know, you start dismissing and denying and making excuses and calling us lunatics? Why? Because I’m going to yell at him and whoop his ass? Really? That is causing this much shit? I don’t know about anyone of you, but it’s my personal belief that if someone is violated they have EVERY FUCKING RIGHT to take back their body from their abuser. Keep in mind, WE HAVE NOT THREATENED ANDY’S LIFE. This isn’t about hunting him down and murdering him. This is about him having to face me and look me in the eye and hear what I have to say. In review, fuck the haters, give me the hobbit and I’ll be on my way. Because I must. P.s. Let’s also address the term “witch hunt” and how it’s completely offensive because it UNDENIABLY implies that Andy is innocent. And also has a historical context of being a form of sexual oppression so it seems completely inappropriate to use in this situation. Just sayin’.

(via shallowxgraves)